As for formal education, I got a degree in Physics to fulfill my childhood dream of discovering the secrets of the Universe and finding myself some aliens. Then, I decided to get a degree in Political Science, with a focus on gender studies and environmental studies. I became interested in social sciences because after chasing cosmic mysteries, I realized people were even more fascinating.
After academia, I tried doing anything else with my life but everywhere I went I found myself obsessed with one big rainbow elephant: people’s sexual and romantic behavior. So I began my career as a sex and relationship educator and coach at the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health. I obtained a certification in Life Coaching, and continued my learning. After writing a few sex and relationship advise columns and producing videos on subjects such as power dynamics in relationships and how to recover from sexual trauma, I knew that this work was my passion.
Since then, I have been writing and producing educational material and working with coaching clients from all walks of life. I have presented at many conferences, worked with many prominent sexuality educators, and have been helping others have better sexual and romantic connections one client at a time. I am also a co-partner and the Director of Education & Programs at The HEAL Project, on a mission to prevent child sexual abuse through healing the wounds of sexual oppression and embracing sexual liberation.
I believe what makes me qualified as a life coach is not only my formal training, but also my vast and varied life experiences. I have been a researcher looking for gravitational waves, a chef making Ayurvedic food for meditators, and a permaculturist growing organic food in New England, to name a few.
I am an immigrant and since my arrival in this country over a decade ago, I have spent a lot of time traveling and learning about different cultures and people. I studied spirituality from Sufism to Vedanta Philosophy and Taoism. I WWOOFed around for a while. I cycled around from the shores of Florida, to depths of the Grand Canyon and beyond. I backpacked from splashes of Niagara Falls to the Arch of St. Louis, and the tip of the Space Needle.
These days, I spend my days playing with my little poof of a pup, growing herbs and vegetables indoors and outdoors, spending time with friends and family, practicing yin yoga, meditating, playing the piano and sometimes the violin, learning new languages, reading about anything from health and nutrition to quantum physics, and writing.
Good sex cannot be had in bad relationships. I define sex as the broad range of erotic activities that may or may not involve the genitals or other people. I define relationships as the broad range of human connections with oneself and others. Whether you are self-pleasuring or having casual sex, the quality of your sex is directly correlated with the quality of your relationship with yourself and other people involved.
In my practice as a relationship coach, I offer a holistic approach with a focus on intimate relationships. I begin by helping you identify patterns that do not work for you and shifting them. Our dysfunctional patterns in intimate relationships are often remnants of childhood attachment injuries reinforced by dysfunctional adult relationships. I offer exercises to set healthy boundaries, identify needs and desires, and develop effective communications skills to help others understand how to meet us where we need them to. I also offer practice with emotional management skills and habit building skills to help facilitate breaking old patterns and making new ones that actually work for you.
In my practice as a sex coach, I bring an abundance of knowledge and experience on human sexuality, sexual pleasure and health, gender and sexual identities, and kink and BDSM. I have been a sex educator for over a decade teaching and writing on subjects such as sexual trauma, sexual violence, sexual dysfunctions, as well as sexual healing, sex and spirituality, and sexual liberation. To me, sex is inherently a neutral activity with incredible potential for causing harm or harmony. My mission is to help my clients explore the map of their sexual desires and find new and creative ways to make their sex lives work for them.